I've had leather in all my cars and furniture in the house. I can say that no two hides are exactly the same so consistency will be difficult, however a new car shouldn't have that worn look. The leather in my RX350 is perfect, even after 2 years. The black leather in my G35 is all wrinkly after 6 years and it's just normal wear. The 3 series I had for 8 years looked even worse. My advice is just to forget about it, it's really not that big of a deal. It will become like that in a few years anyways. I know how you feel though, knowing that it's there. No one else will realize it, it plays tricks on your mind. I have Nuluxe on my CT200, it's comfy and grippy. I like it over the leather. I don't slide around and the seat just holds me still. Time will tell on the durability of this material ,so far so good.
I took delivery of my car and didn't even notice three chips in the front spoiler. The dealership will touch it up, but I know it's there and no one else, it plays tricks on your mind. I know after a few months, there will be many chips. It's like prolonging the door ding, it eventually will come and when it does, you'll be relieved that the waiting is over. Don't let it get to you, enjoy the car and not worry too much about the cosmetics which will wear inevitably.